When to hold 'em and when to fold 'em

I've felt stuck in a myriad of situations, jobs, relationships, places and spaces and what I can say definitively is, no matter how many times I've gone back and forth, no matter how strong of a vow I've made to either move forward or stay put, no matter if I've fully engaged my emotions or ignored them, absolutely nothing is concrete until I have absolute clarity. In every situation I've encountered thus far, that much needed clarity has always come by "simply" being honest with myself. And by "simply" I mean difficultly, because c'mon now, we all know how hard being honest with yourself can be.

I mean, who wants to acknowledge that the person they've given so much of themselves to doesn't care much about them at all, or that the job they thought was going to be the best one yet turned out to be the worst one ever, or that they simply don't have the self-discipline they thought they possessed to accomplish a major goal they were certain they would body? Nobody, that's who. Not a damn soul. That being said, the fact still remains that facing and telling the truth really can and will set us free, and unless or until you fully rip that band-aid off, you won't be able to accurately assess what needs to be done.

You can't adequately prepare for anything without knowing the logistics, and you can't know the logistics without taking inventory, and you can't take inventory without heing honest. That's just what it is.

Whenever I catch myself going back and forth about a decision (which happens a lot unfortunately), it's usually because I haven't seen the whole picture yet, which causes me to feel confused and/or unsure. Without true clarity, no matter how convicted I feel at the moment, my mind will always wonder to "what if". If you're anything like me, facing the truth in its entirety will help you make better, clearer, more sound, healthier decisions. In other words, clarity for the unsure mind can be like spinach for popeye. It provides superhuman strength to do whatever needs done. Simple math!

So, yeah, sometimes you gotta break your own heart with the truth so you can get on with the business of putting it back together again properly, and making the next best move for yourself. Remember though, nothing works if you don't. You can be honest all you want, if you don't take that honesty and put it to good use, you're setting yourself up for a marathon of repeated heartbreaks for absolutely no good reason...which is a whole other hell on it's own (ask me how I know)!