Let's Talk About Sex, Baby!

Sex with someone new is always a gamble. Will you two connect? Will it be good? Is he a pleaser and a giver? Or will you be scarred from the memory of it for life? Who knows! Well, actually, someone does know, and that someone could also be you, well before you ever take off any of your clothes. Yes, that's right - you don’t have to have do the horizontal tango with a man to know if his sex game is piss poor or or otherwise. At one point my thought was just broaching the conversation of sex and seeing how he navigates it is more than enough to determine if he sucks or not, but it turns out it’s even more simple than that. You can actually gage what kind of lover he is (or isn't) through casual, nonsexual conversation. How so, you ask? Simple!

Ask yourself these important q's: Does he try to dominate the conversation without actually listening to what you're saying? Does he think he’s always right to a point of attempting to greatly minimize your point? Does he insist on trying to teach you things even though it’s abundantly clear you are the subject matter expert? If you answered "yes" to any of the above...I may have just spared your coochie some very much so unneeded disappointment!

One thing about men who are bad at sex is, unfortunately, most of all think they’re great, and as such, they are quick to boast about it, quick to tell you how they can show you things you haven’t experienced without even knowing what you’ve experienced, without ever having experienced you, even. This assertion they have, that they know better than you, even about you, shows up in their everyday conversation. It inadvertently provides a keyhole's gaze into his sexual capabilities, or lack thereof. In short, chances are if he's a douche outside the bedroom, chances are he's an even bigger one inside of it.

The next time you go on a date, pay attention to how he talks to you, how he takes rejection or redirection, how much or how little interest he shows in what you have to say, and how well he listens. These little nuggets will not only give you insight to who he is as a person but will also give insight to how good or terrible he may be in the bedroom. Good luck out there girls!